Love Yourself More, Not Less
It’s a full moon today and for Empaths like myself, the energy is extremely heightened. I woke early this morning and was contemplating what I would want to focus on for this blog. It took a while, but I realized that in truth, I wanted to focus on self-love. And specifically, what arose, is a teaching about how in any situation you should love yourself more, not less. This is not a message that is broadcast in our current society that is focused on creating outcomes and getting things done. But as I scan the world, what I see missing is each person’s ability to live with an open heart. So I advocate that we all stop turning away from ourselves when our thoughts or emotions challenge us. And instead turn inward to love the one who is thinking or feeling these challenging thoughts.
It’s not how I grew up that’s for sure and I am guessing you might have a similar experience. Most of us were taught as children to turn away from ourselves or be embarrassed by “negative emotions” or “negative thoughts.” All this does is create more tension and anxiety when our nervous systems are already overstimulated.
A Simple Practice To Love Yourself More
What if each time you worried, grew anxious or afraid, or felt yourself shrinking in some way your response was to love yourself more, not less?
Here’s a way to make it easy. Let’s use the example of worry. When you worry, think of the opposite emotion or state of mind, which to me is peace of mind. As you notice yourself worrying, put your hand on your heart and tell yourself that you are blessed with peace of mind. When you are anxious or afraid, decide the opposite and then put your hand on your heart and tell yourself that you are blessed with that energy.
The formula is simple. The practice will literally transform your life one challenging thought or emotion at a time.
This is self-compassion in action. Because you are loving what arises and never abandoning yourself in the midst of a difficult or challenging mental or emotional circumstance.
A Paradigm Shift That Calls You To Love Yourself More
The truth is, we are experiencing a huge energetic paradigm shift. And that shift is about not turning away and not denying. It’s not more spiritual to internally berate yourself when you have a challenging thought or emotion. There are not a list of things to do that make you worthy of spiritual grace and mercy. That is all old paradigm thinking.
If you truly want to see changes in your life and start to attract more of what you are seeking – your true heart’s desires – then begin to love yourself more. Because, the more love you extend to yourself, the more love you radiate out in the world. And in turn, the more you touch the lives of others without doing anything special. Which means that in turn, your life takes a shape that supports and nurtures you.
Part of this new paradigm is the sense that there is a laser beam on many of our old unconscious ways of being the world. These unconscious ways of being are becoming more transparent and in our faces, so they can be transformed once and for all. It might feel scary and overwhelming, but your ability to work gently with yourself instead of harshly will change everything.
If you haven’t checked out my book on Amazon, I invite you to do so now. And when you purchase the book and wish to find the audio meditation, “Welcoming Your Creative Genius Home” it’s on my new Resources page.
This book takes you on a personal journey for 30 days to strengthen your connection with your Divine Feminine Energy and your creative genius. It will remind you that everyone is creative and there are multiple ways to express creatively in the world. The daily pages are filled with reflections, inspiration, and activities that support you on this important transformation journey.
The second is that I have finalized a workshop in the Twin Cities with a friend and colleague, Brian Zirngible, LMFT. Here are the details we have right now.
DATE CHANGE: Due to some challenges and technical glitches, we chose to delay the workshop by a month. The new potential date is May 13th. Brian Zirngible & I will be presenting a #relationship workshop that honors & explores healthy #feminine & #masculine roles, common myths/misunderstandings and pitfalls to avoid in order to grow in our relationships with ourselves and our partners. Our goal is to provide hope, encouragement, and information about how #selfcare is necessary in order to extend love to others. Please share with anyone who you might think would benefit from this workshop. More details coming later this week.
Finally, based on feedback from coaching clients, I have 2 new coaching offerings.
A new coaching package to help you deepen your self-love and self-acceptance called Become Your Own Beloved. In this 3 month journey, you will learn how to connect with your deepest self and nurture your relationship internally. Instead of overgiving and being hyper-responsible. And instead of constantly searching outside of yourself for validation, approval, appreciation, and other forms of external support you will become fully aligned internally. This alignment will change all of your relationships in the external world.
I am also launching a 4-hour intensive experience that will help you move the creative project you have been dreaming of from an idea in your head to a reality you speak to life. This special intensive is called Speak Your Creative Project to Life.
Until Next Time…
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Blessings on your journey of softening to and embracing your beautiful heart!